He tells me he wants my honest feedback.
Really? Does he really want my honest feedback?
This has come up a lot in marriage, in multiple facets. Today it came up with his writing, but in the past it has been on his leadership, the way he serves me, his role as a husband– some pretty major stuff. I think Brian really does want honest feedback from me. The good and the bad.
I read something Brian has been working on today as he sat there anxiously awaiting feedback. Seriously. He was staring at me. His biggest pet peeve in this situation is for me to reply that I like it, so I knew better than to lead with that… even though I did.
After all of my questions and clarifications and comments, Brian asked for the bad stuff. I didn’t have any. He didn’t believe me.
But there have been other times I did have feedback that was negative and I was too afraid to share it. I have come to understand that Brian really does want to hear it. He wants to take it, ponder on it, make changes, and move forward. Always forward thinking– that’s my husband.
He’s right, though. I do need to be honest and I can’t hesitate to share negative feedback. How else can we grow if we don’t know the areas that need it? I need to learn to trust my husband that he really does want to hear what I have to say– good or bad. And my husband needs to learn that there isn’t always a bad 😉