I had a few drinks with guys from church this evening and an interesting question was asked of me. My friend Doug asked me: “in being married almost a year, what’s been the biggest conflict?”
Honestly, I had to think about it. There were a couple that jumped to mind, our differences in how we want keep the house, the differences between a morning person and a night person, etc. But then it hit me clear as a bell.
“The fact that I deeply want to solve her problems for her, when she just wants a sympathetic husband to listen to her.”
Doug, the only other married guy at the table, responded immediately with a, “Oh, I get that.” The other guys were a bit surprised at the answer.
“Really? That’s the biggest conflict?” Joseph asked me.
I replied that it really was and Doug backed me up that it made a lot of sense. We went on to have a good discussion about men and women and how we are designed very, very, differently. But that’s not the point I want to make.
I guess what I have to say is this: if after eleven months the biggest conflict I could identify was one that seems to be almost ubiquitous, then we must be in okay shape. Right?
What do you think, married readers? Is that one of the most common sources of conflict?