Series of events

It feels like life is just a series of events right now. It feels that way at work, at home, in Women’s Development, and even personally. Here’s what I mean…

At work it was report cards, then parent teacher conferences, followed by our big service day, then Grandparents’ Day. Things were supposed to calm down post-Grandparents’ Day, but now it’s Progress Reports, ASCI Conference, and Task V.

At home, it’s a weekly cycle: conquer the laundry, then the ironing, hit up the kitchen, straighten up, pick one room to do a major clean, then start over.

In Women’s Development right now, it’s the study guide, then the written exam, the retreat, the oral exam, and the Scripture memory exam.

Personally, it’s journal, birthday, weekend with Gran and Mom, Thanksgiving, Vegas.

But I’ve been around long enough (and seen enough movies) to know that life is what happens amidst all of the “events”. Life is what happens in the in-between. What do I do in the in-between? I work towards, schedule, prepare for, talk about, and agonize over the “events”. Not much of a life when you think of it that way.

So, tonight, though we studied in preparation for class and tests and I graded in preparation for Progress Reports, I cooked dinner, Brian and I had a meal together at the kitchen table, we played a word game, and then cuddled on the couch. It was not scheduled, as it was not an “event,” but it was wonderful.

I’m a do-er. It’s who I am. But it causes me to focus on the events and the doing of them. My husband is not an event. Neither is my marriage. And I can’t elevate these events, no matter how important, beneficial, or worthy, above this gift with which God has blessed me.



Lindsey said something really interesting to me tonight. In talking about all of the work assignments, social activities, and new development program homework we have on our plates she said1, “It’s good to need to be disciplined.”

She’s right, we do. I am not a disciplined person by nature. I have always wanted to be that person though, I’ve read the Covey books, Getting Things Done, and lately the Action Method has helped a lot. But really, I’m a go with the flow, take it as it comes person. Lindsey is not wired this way, not at all actually, but it seems that our way of life has been a compromise. It’s not a good one.

So this week, and particularly today, we have focused on getting the right things done in the right way. We prioritize work, homework, time together and time reading the Bible. Then we’ve moved onto friends, then all the other stuff after that. It’s not perfect, and we will fail at this a lot (or at least I will), but I think it’s a healthy thing to focus on.

With a greater workload, we must focus on the really important things. I don’t have a good track record, but my wife does. Hopefully she can teach me a thing or two. 🙂

  1. She said this, or something close. I have been informed by my wife that my skills at remembering exact quotes are a bit off. So… fair warning, she may (fairly) correct me.