Let’s try this again…

It’s Friday, which means that while driving home, the weekend begins.

Brian and I have now had a few weekends together, all very different, though I’m starting to notice a definite trend: we have the best and most productive of intentions for our weekends but we turn out to be epic to-do list failures. That, or we have an evil anti-“to-do” list fairy in our house. Can’t tell.

Now, I know that everyone has those things that they simply can’t find the time to do. I get that. I get that we will never actually complete all of the to-do’s in our heads and blah blah blah. And I know that I happen to be an ambitious planner, so I probably over-estimate what I can really get done. But Brian and I have the darnedest ability to say “I’m going to take care of ______ this weekend” and that ______ happens to very thing that won’t get done.

My husband already has a couple of things on his to-do list for this weekend, but I’m trying to figure out my plan of action. Maybe if I don’t make a to-do list then whatever curse keeps destroying my productive plans will be averted. Take that, evil fairy! Or maybe if I just pick ONE major thing (though, knowing what I need to do– how could I?!) then maybe I’ll have a chance to actually get it done. Hmm. I’m stumped.

And then there are the commitments, the things that are already planned for us to do: Blue Like Jazz (an awesome movie that you MUST SEE) tonight, brunch with Laura tomorrow, church and a wedding on Sunday. But what will I accomplish in the in-between times? What will Brian accomplish? In our new epic battle with the evil fairy, who will win– me or her?

…I’m feeling feisty.

Two Days

We’ve had two days of work and real life since the honeymoon. It’s been eye-opening in a few small ways.

First, we have grand plans for our life together, especially our daily life. But as we all know from the famous quote, “no battle plan survives contact with the enemy”. One of the things we talked about in the last few weeks was the idea of getting back to more traditional  rhythms of life and being together in those. Wake up around the same time, see each other in the morning, eat dinner together (at a table, no TV, etc.), spend time in the Bible each evening, then go to bed together. Repeat everyday. Or so we hoped.

Lindsey has to leave so early for school because of the drive and I am the exact opposite of a morning person. For two days in a row I woke up just enough to say good bye and then went back to sleep. So, 0 for 2.

Dinner is only a slightly different story. We had a great dinner last night… and it was only about an hour and a half later than planned. It ate up most of the evening as a result. We did our Bible study and prayer and it was great. Off to bed a bit late after one TV show and the first day was done.

Now, many of our readers who have been married for years will probably roll their eyes at this (the probability of me rolling my eyes at this in 3 months? 82%). But the truth is, we’d like to be different than the average. We want a home that is centered around us, not around our schedules. We want a home where the priority is our marriage, not external expectations. But, for now we obviously have a lot to learn. Which is good. It’s only been two days.